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Managing Teenage Gatherings Successfully

Although celebratory gatherings offer positive experiences for teenagers, there are also some physical and emotional dangers which can be challenging for parents and caregivers to consider. To that end, it is important that parents establish boundaries and expectations around said gatherings. 

As the Association of Independent Schools of South Australia (AISSA) states:

Making the decisions that are best for teenagers can sometimes be very difficult and will often cause more conflict than giving in and allowing them to engage in behaviours that they are not yet mature enough to cope with. Although seldom publicised, surveys show that most teenagers appreciate it when their parents set boundaries and establish expectations that are fairly enforced. 

Parents need to make the decisions that are in the best interests of their children and must be brave enough to maintain a decision in the face of pressure and disappointment.

Pulteney Grammar School is committed to supporting our families by providing examples of best practice regarding social gatherings. As such, we encourage you to access AISSA’s Code of Social Conduct here. This document should be used when planning celebratory gatherings, or when considering allowing students to attend them.

This document should be used in unison with open discussion between parents and families.

It is important that parents get to know their children's friends and, where possible, their parents.  Cooperation between families enables parents to feel comfortable when clarifying arrangements and helps to avoid misunderstandings about standards.

Year 10 Well Being Evening

Being a teenager can be an extremely challenging time for a young person and their family. Many aspects of their bodies, minds, emotions and relationships are changing rapidly and this can have a significant impact on them and the people who support and care for them.

2019 will see the inaugural launch of a Year 10 Parent Wellbeing Evening titled Inside the Mind of a Teenager. This evening is specifically designed to provide parents of Year 10 students with information about the teenage brain and how to best assist your child in these formative senior years of schooling. Guest speakers will include Annecke Redelinghuys, (Pulteney Grammar School Counsellor) who will outline how the biology of the teenage brain works and how this has a direct impact on their decision making. Members from Elevate Education will also join us and will discuss study and time management tips. Finally, Dr Tessa Opie (In Your Skin) will outline how secondary school students want information that goes well beyond the mere biology of sexuality to incorporate topics such as violence in relationships, pornography, and emotional and psychological preparedness. You may have recently heard Dr Opie on 891 ABC Adelaide discussing the need for more comprehensive sex and relationships education on Mornings with Deb Tribe.

Biographies for all presenters can be viewed below in this email.

We warmly invite you to join us on Thursday, 28 February at 7:00pm in Wyatt Hall for what will be an important and informative evening for you as parents as your child begins their Senior School journey.

Nicholas Brice

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Dr Tess Opie:

Dr Tessa Opie has extensive experience in education delivery and training facilitation. Dr Opie has worked as an educator across the government, not-for-profit, and private sectors, and has ongoing experience as a guest lecturer at various universities. She has expertise in discussing and exploring sensitive topics with young people in a range of settings, including mainstream schools, alternative education settings, tertiary institutions, juvenile justice facilities, and amateur and professional sporting associations, including the Australian Football League (AFL) and Port Power Community Ltd. Additionally, Dr Opie has considerable experience working with highly marginalised young people within a progressive, evidence-based, and non-judgemental framework.

Annecke Redelinghuys:

Originally from South Africa and having emmigrated to Australia almost nine years ago, Annecke has a son (26) and a daughter (28) and two beautiful grandchildren. Annecke teaches Psychology (Stage 1 and Stage 2) as well as holding the position of School Counsellor at Pulteney Grammar School.

Annecke has a thorough academic background in Psychology, Higher Education, Counselling and Life Coaching. Furthermore, in her former roles as Director of Teaching and Learning and Head of Senior School, she gained extensive experience in working with middle and senior school students in terms of counselling and mentoring as well as the development of programs for disengaged students.

Annecke has a passion for working with young people and cares deeply about their wellbeing. She has done extensive research on the neurological and biological development of the adolescent brain and how it impacts on their behaviour. She therefore assists adolescents and their parents on this challenging journey into adulthood through counselling and coaching. 

Elevate Education:

Since 2001, Elevate has been transforming the way study skills programs are run across Australia. Drawing upon over fifteen years of research into the habits of the country’s top students, Elevate's high impact seminars and workshops help students improve their study techniques, increase motivation, build confidence, and lift examination performance.

Elevate’s reputation for achieving behavioural change has led the company to become an international leader in education, working with over 1500 schools and 350,000 students in the UK, USA, South Africa and Singapore.

More specific information regarding Elevate’s parent presentation can be accessed here.